Superstitious Methods for Finding Your True Love

Since Valentine’s Day is fast approaching I thought it might be fun to explore those superstitions about finding your true love. I found these superstitions in a book written during the late 19th century and while they were common beliefs during that time I believe they had been passed down from mother to child for many generations. Some of these wonderful bits of folklore were a surprise to me and some of them I remember from my own childhood. Playing “he loves me, love’s me not” was a favorite game among the girls when I was in elementary school. So I hope you enjoy a little walk down memory lane and for those of you still searching for your one, true love, maybe some of these superstitions will point you in the right direction!

“Love’s me, Love’s me not”

Pull the petals off the daisy one by one, saying “yes or no,” and if “yes” falls on the very last petal, the person loves you.

A verse for finding your love:

He’ll have me,
He won’t;
He would if he could,
But he can’t.

Pull off the petals of a daisy one by one, naming a boy or a girl as the case may be, for each one, thus, “Mindy, Trudy, Mindy, Trudy,” etc.  The last one named will be your sweetheart.  The seeds that remain on your hand after you pull the last petal will show the number of your future children.

To tell the fortune, take a daisy and pluck the petals one by one, using the words…

“He loves me, he loves me not.”

If you find a five-leaf daisy and swallow it without chewing, you will in the course of the day shake hands with your future spouse.(I don’t recommend this, you never know what chemicals or other substances might be on plants nowadays!)

Four Leaf Clovers

If a girl puts a two-leaved clover in her shoe, the first man who approaches her on the side where the clover is will be her future husband.

Put a four-leaved clover in your shoe, and you will marry a man having the first name of the man whom you meet first after doing it.

Place a four-leaved clover in your shoe and you will meet your intended.

If the finder of a four-leaved clover places it in her own shoe, she will marry the first man she crosses a bridge with.

Put a four-leaved clover over the door. The first man to cross the threshold will be your future husband.

Counting Horses

Count sixty white horses and one white mule, then you will marry the first man with whom you shake hands.

Count a hundred white horses during leap year. The first man that you shake hands with after you have counted a hundred will be your husband.

When crossing a bridge, if you see two white horses on it (in different teams) and wish at once for a man to marry, you’ll get your wish.

Letters of the Alphabet

Write names on three pieces of paper, throw them up in the air (in the dark); feel for one, put it under the pillow, and in the morning look at it to see the name of the man you are to marry.

Put pieces of paper, each bearing one letter of the alphabet, in water face down, and then place them under the bed. The pieces that have turned to face up by the morning show the initials of your future husband.

Write the names of several men friends, each on a slip of paper. On three successive mornings a choice is made from these. If the name drawn is always the same, it is the name of your future husband. If the lot falls differently every morning, you will never be married.

Write two names (of possible lovers), cross out the common letters.  Touch the uncrossed letters, repeating in turn, “Love, friendship, hate,” and the last uncrossed letter will indicate the state of the heart.


Eat an apple at midnight before the mirror, saying, “Whoever my true love may be, come and eat this apple with me,” while holding a lamp in the hand. Your true love will appear.

Set the table in silence for two at eleven o’clock P.M., with bread and butter and silver knives and forks. Two girls sit down at twelve, and say, “Whoever my true love may be, come and eat this supper with me.”

Doorway Superstitions

Put the breast-bone of a fowl over the front door, and the first one of the opposite sex that enters is to be your future companion.

Hang over the door a corn-cob from which you have shelled all but twenty grains. The first man that enters you’ll marry.

Nail a horseshoe over the door, and the first one who enters is your true love.

Hang a wishbone over the door. The first one who enters will be your lover.

Two girls break a wishbone together. The one who gets the longest bit will remain longest unmarried, or, as the familiar rhyme runs:

Shortest to marry,
Longest to tarry.

If the “knot” (that is, the flattened portion at the junction of the two prongs of the bone) flies away and does not stick to either prong, the two girls are to remain unmarried. Each girl puts her bit of the wishbone over a different door. The first man who enters either door is to marry the girl who has placed her piece of wishbone over the door.


Count the buttons of an old boot. The number of buttons will show the number of years before marriage.

On your birthday, as you get ready for bed, take off your slipper, shoe or boot. Stand with your back to the door and throw it over your head. If the toe points to the door, you’ll go out of your bedroom a bride before the year is out. You can’t look at the boot until the morning.

Young girls on going to bed at night place their shoes at right angles to one another, in the form of the letter T, repeating this rhyme:

Hoping this night my true love to see,
I place my shoes in the form of a T.

Place the heel of one shoe against the instep of the other for three nights in a row. You will dream of your future husband.

A rhyme on stockings and shoes:

Point your shoes towards the street,
Leave your garters on your feet,
Put your stockings on your head,
You’ll dream of the man you are going to wed.

Bedtime Superstitions

If you count the boards of the ceiling (loft) in a strange room before going to sleep, you will dream of your lover.

At night before going to bed take one of your garters and tie it in a knot and hang it on the bed-post above your head. While tying repeat:

This knot I tie, this knot I knit,
To see the young man I haven’t seen yet.

Put the chemise, inside out, on the foot of the bed and under it a board with ashes upon it; then go to bed backwards, saying:

Whoever my true love may be,
Come write his name in these ashes for me.

On Friday night after getting all ready for bed, roll your petticoat up, and before lying down put it under your pillow, repeating this verse:

This Friday night while going to bed,
I put my petticoat under my head,
To dream of the living and not of the dead,
To dream of the man I am to wed,
The color of his eyes, the color of his hair,
The color of the clothes he is to wear,
And the night the wedding is to be.

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